When we think of our past, we are transported to a hodgepodge of memories and experiences some good, some bad. The events that happen to you help shape the way you feel and interpret the world.
We are influenced heavily as we look back to childhood forward by the people and environment around us. Your morals, values, your outlook on life, your happiness, & how you view success or failures. How you communicate & love.
If you were subjected to a volatile, sad, unstable childhood you may hold onto insecurities and difficulty trusting and feeling secure. The same is said for a person from a loving supportive thriving childhood, the world may seem scary and cold. Both difficult in their own way to overcome.
The hardest thing you can do is change these patterns and ideas that shaped you into who you are today!
Thinking back to my childhood, being raised by an extremely strict Mom with strong values ingrained in me the motivation and desire for success, but also am incredible pressure to be the best. Straight A’s etc. I found sometimes very hard to live up to. Although my mom difficult at times, her love for me unwavering, so losing her at age twenty five so painful as I missed many formative young adult years with her. Yes I hold onto this loss, but live as I remember her.
I am thankful we lived a busy life, I was exposed to culture, travel & family friends that appreciated wonderful food & music in warm loving environments. You could say I was raised by a Village! I have early memories of my Aunt playing Jazz cleaning her house (I still find joy in doing the same) & visiting Palm Springs with dear friends spending time in their pottery shop~yoga~hiking. Visiting my Aunt in Illinois and baking cookies all Holiday traditions set by generations before me that I take pride in carrying on! A feeling in my soul & these memories ingrained as a part of me, who I am as a person.
Your past has played a significant role in where you are in life at this very point and time. The key is to not let those past experiences completely define who you are as a person but enhance it! You can change your perception of any negative behaviors instead of letting them define who you are and how you see the world.
Be aware of what’s holding you back from your full potential, whether, regret, anger, low self-esteem, or just an overwhelming fear of failure. So many times we find ourselves stuck here. Don’t be stuck~overcome and move forward!
Your past does not define you. Release the past, stand firmly in the present, and prepare to step confidently into the future!